Published inForge·Mar 30, 2022Member-only5 Signs That Your Biggest Fear is ‘Being a Burden’Covert codependency keeps us connected by being the one that no one has to worry about — When you’ve been conditioned to never be a burden, having basic needs feels like you’re being ‘too much’. Perhaps you grew up with the experience that sharing your struggles wasn’t welcome. You learned that you were more acceptable or even safer if you kept your needs and emotions in check. …Fawn Response4 min readFawn Response4 min read
Published inForge·Oct 11, 2021Member-onlyA Therapist’s View on Why Everyone Is ResigningIt all has to do with who holds the power — I’ve been reading about The Great Resignation and following the trend of “rage-quitting” with great interest and little wonder. As a therapist, I’ve sat with many people who feel the deep hopelessness of not being able to leave a job they hate. In the therapy room, we can only work…The Great Resignation4 min readThe Great Resignation4 min read
Published inCurious·Mar 18, 2021Member-onlyHow to Create Affirmations That Actually Work5 affirmation rules that don’t rely on toxic positivity — Does positive thinking, manifesting mantras and “leaving it all to the universe” leave you feeling frustrated? Perhaps you’ve bought another ‘life changing’ book and instead of feeling inspired, you feel cynical. If so, you probably share my penchant for a more compassionate way of relating to yourself. Affirmations are EVERYWHERE. …Toxic Positivity6 min readToxic Positivity6 min read
Published inForge·Jul 6, 2020Member-onlyWhat Toxic Spirituality Sounds LikeBy ‘manifesting’ your dreams, are you completely ignoring privilege? — Before I left my corporate career to study psychotherapy, I was a self-help devotee. I devoured every book, took every course, and attended every conference I could find on how to “manifest my dreams.” …Spirituality4 min readSpirituality4 min read